No matter the relationship or tone, a 3-part structure is all you need.

Step	What to Say	Time
1. Your relationship	Introduce yourself and explain how you know the couple.	20 sec
2. An episode	Share a shared memory or a moment when you noticed the person had changed.	1-2 min
3. A closing wish	Close with a heartfelt and sincere wish.	20 sec

2-3 minutes total is just right. Over 5 minutes and guests lose focus. The stars of the day are the couple, not the person giving the toast.

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Pick Material Based on Your Relationship

Friend

Good material: The day you first met, your reaction when you heard they were dating, the moment you saw your friend change

"When I first met their partner, honestly, I was skeptical. But seeing them together, I thought, 'Okay, this is the real deal.'"

"When they told us they were dating, we were all shocked. But the way they lit up since then made it so obvious."

Colleague or Mentor

Good material: Their dedication at work, the way they talked about their partner during team dinners

"Even during late nights at the office, at 9pm sharp they'd sneak a call. That's when I knew this person was serious."

Family (Sibling)

Good material: Childhood memories, changes you watched as a sibling, your feeling when they brought their partner home

"The kid who used to fight with me over everything is now marrying someone this wonderful. As a brother/sister, I couldn't be happier."

What to Never Include

Past dating history, inside jokes guests won't understand, comments on appearance, work mistakes, giving a toast while drunk

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Complete Examples

Friend (from the groom's friend)

Hi everyone, I'm [your name], and I've been [groom's name]'s friend since college.

Okay, I'll be honest. When he told us he was seeing someone, our whole friend group had the exact same reaction: "Wait, seriously?" This guy, if he gets into something, he's up all night alone, working through weekends alone. We couldn't figure out where he'd even find the time for a relationship. But the first time he mentioned [partner's name], something was different. He was sitting there at dinner, staring at his phone, smiling to himself. That's when I knew. This was real.

Watching them together, they just look... easy. Not like two people trying to fit together, but like two people who were already the same shape. That's what I envied most.

[Groom's name], [partner's name], hold onto that ease. That's all you need. Congratulations from the bottom of my heart.

Work Colleague (from the team manager)

Hi, I'm [your name], and I'm [groom/bride's name]'s team manager at [company name].

At work, this person is someone you can truly rely on. Even the day before a deadline, they don't crack. When things get tough, they're the one keeping the team grounded. But sometime in the fall a couple years ago, something shifted. They started leaving right at the end of the day, on the dot. At first I thought they'd picked up a new hobby. But I noticed that even during late nights, come 9pm, they'd quietly start wrapping up their desk. That's when it hit me: this person has something outside of work they genuinely care about. I couldn't help but feel proud.

[Groom/bride's name], [partner's name]. You look absolutely radiant today. You've always been the steady one at work. Now be that steady presence for each other. Congratulations, with all my heart.

Sibling

I'm [your name], [bride/groom's name]'s [brother/sister].

Growing up, honestly? We fought about everything. The TV remote. Sharing one bathroom. But looking back now, I think that's when we got to know each other best.

The first time I met [partner's name], I just knew. Something in [bride/groom's name]'s eyes was different. This wasn't just a crush.

[Bride/groom's name], from now on, the person who'll take care of you most is [partner's name]. But you'd better still call me sometimes. [Partner's name], I'm counting on you. Congratulations, truly.

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Final Check

- Make sure it's structured in 3 parts (relationship > episode > wish)
- Time it to 2-3 minutes
- Make sure the episode is something all guests can understand
- Rewrite it in your own voice and read it aloud 3 times
- Prepare key sentences in case you cry
- Don't drink before giving the toast

If you think you might cry, write your key sentences on a note card. Even if emotions overwhelm you, you can look at the card and finish strong.

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