No matter the relationship or tone, a 3-part structure is all you need. 2-3 minutes total is just right. Over 5 minutes and guests lose focus.

Deciding how you'll read your vows makes writing them much easier. Your vows only need three things. Follow this order and it flows naturally. One memory that only the two of you share.

If you're torn between a friend and a professional, have the friend give a toast or blessing while a professional MC handles the overall flow. Best of both worlds.